An Interview with Dr. Kevin Grold: Author of The Alchemy of Affection

Dr. Kevin Grold has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. His first book, The Love Report, is based on his research into couples in long-term relationships. He has always had an interest in the topic of love and making it easy for others to understand and integrate love into their life. He has been sought out for advice from Dear Abby more than a few times and he has created many self-help tests used around the world.

For over a decade, he ran the international therapist referral service 1-800-therapist.com and then for the next twenty years, he was the CEO of EDReferral.com, which is the largest online referral service for eating disorders. He is currently a volunteer CASA Court Appointed Special Advocate for foster youth, and he lives in Del Mar, California, with his dog, Happy.

Tell us about your book.

Can you name the essential elements of a lasting, loving, passionate relationship? You know you want that amazing connection, but if you cannot easily define love, how do you expect it to manifest in your life? Is your plan to mindlessly move through the world and hope that mature love hits you like a bolt of lightning?

Let’s start by examining just one of the elements of mature love: commitment. Commitment sounds like something you definitely want from your partner, but can you define it? Based on your last relationship, you probably have a few ideas that you will commit to not happening again, but can you name the 26 components of commitment? And are you equipped with the skills to discuss this essential aspect of love with your partner?

The Alchemy of Affection: Unlocking the Mysteries of Lasting Love not only provides you with an understanding of all of the foundational elements of a lasting, loving, and passionate relationship, but it also empowers you to elevate your love to its fullest potential. Packed with actionable insights and straightforward instructions, Alchemy provides practical guidance to help you achieve the ultimate goal of a deep, passionate love.

Why did you want to write a book?

After losing my wife Christine to breast cancer, I’m honoring her memory by donating all profits from my book to help cancer patients obtain wigs. Losing hair during cancer treatment can be a traumatic experience, and having access to wigs can help ease the emotional burden. Unfortunately, many individuals cannot afford this crucial part of the healing process. My donation aims to fill this gap and provide much-needed support to those struggling to feel normal during a difficult time.

What do you think are the main pitfalls for indie writers?

Having too many options for promotion and not having a clear focus or direction. Not knowing what is useful and what is a waste of time and money.

What tips can you give other authors looking to self-publish?

Self-Publishing Review is quite helpful.

What was your steepest learning curve during the publishing process?

It is best to have someone format your e-book as it is more difficult than it appears.

Tell us about the genre you wrote in, and why you chose to write this sort of book.

I have always been interested in the complex issue of love and helping others to understand the most effective ways to have a deep, passionate loving relationship.

Who are your biggest writing inspirations and why?

I researched love for my dissertation and was able to conduct ground-breaking research with real long-term loving couples.

What are your plans now your book is published?

To continue writing books to help people experience deep love. I have 2 more books in pre-publication. Heart to Heart: A workbook for singles looking for love and Unbreakable Bonds: The art of eternal love and lasting commitment.

What did you learn on your journey as an author?

I have learned a lot about mature love and how it differs from attraction. This understanding has allowed me to answer many basic questions such as “Is there love at first sight?” Once you define love clearly, then the answer is self-evident.

What’s next for you as an author?

To continue researching relationships in order to make this subject clear for others on the same path. I have 2 more books in the works (mentioned above).