Handing Down Hope by Nate Slaymaker

A refreshing and generation-spanning guide towards healthier communication and a brighter future, Handing Down Hope by Nate Slaymaker is a relatable map for the mighty task of parenting, coaching, or managing teenagers.

Through his own experiences with foster children, generations of students, and other assorted teenagers coming in and out of his life – some with significant challenges and unfair amounts of baggage – Slaymaker has constructed a succinct catalogue of lessons learned. The chapter framing is intriguing, laying out both the common errors and more effective strategies as binaries – rather than acting purely as a “how-to” book, it also acts as a “how-not-to” guide.

Expressed with a somewhat informal tone, these critical lessons are shared through anecdotal recounting from the author, supported by quotes from pieces of literature, philosophy, theatre, and more, making this both an accessible and educational read. Woven into the conversational narrative are original pieces of advice, such as not changing your facial expression when someone is sharing something difficult or vulnerable; even the slightest perception or judgment or shame could cause the sharer to lock up or shut down. This is just one of countless examples of wisdom, tools, and tips baked into this humble and handy guide.

There are some sloppy passages, redundant ideas, and some lines that could be tightened up by a skilled editor, but there is also a simple honesty to this writing that makes it ring with authenticity. Slaymaker has gleaned great and timeless insight through his experience, and many teachers, leaders, parents, and mentors could benefit from his guidance.